Skip to main content The fatigue and discomfort that come from living with a chronic condition can make physical intimacy intimidating for many people. Endometriosis can also lead to unpleasant sensations in the pelvis and external genitalia, making sexual activities uncomfortable or painful.
It isn’t uncommon for a person living with endometriosis to avoid sex. This isn’t a reflection on the strength of your relationship or how much your partner loves you. If being physically close to your partner is something you and your loved one with endometriosis value, there are plenty of things you can do to try and help.
Communication, communication, communication
In any romantic or sexual relationship, communication is key. If you would like to work with your partner to increase physical intimacy, let them know. And then LISTEN to them.
Is their concern fatigue? See if there are any tasks they regularly perform that you can do for them. Is the problem pain and discomfort during penetrative sex? See if there are any positions that don’t trigger these feelings and consider a visit to a pelvic floor physiotherapist who specialises in pelvic pain. Is there external discomfort? Try a lubricant or using a different brand. Unfortunately, there may not always be a way to return to sexual activity in the way you remember it. In those cases…
Reshape how you think about sex
If you are a couple who are used to engaging in penetrative sex and can no longer comfortably achieve penetration, then don’t! Hands, fingers, and mouths can be used to bring mutual satisfaction. And don’t be afraid to try sex toys! The Sex, intimacy and endo video has a lot of tips to help rekindle your sex life. Unfortunately there are people with endometriosis who experience pain from arousal alone. If sexual activity is proving too difficult then…
Reshape how you think about physical intimacy
Maybe try a different type of Netflix and chill? Cuddle on the couch while watching a movie, or maybe give a gentle massage while listening to music. Have a shower or bath together. Fall asleep spooning. Remember to give each other a kiss every time you say hello or good bye. In our busy lives it can be difficult to just stop and be in physical contact with each other. This can be compounded when one partner is afraid of things escalating into sexual activity. Slow down, and remember to touch.
